Tuesday, 11 August 2015

12 LESSONS TO HELP YOU ENJOY LIFE



1. DONT EXPECT THINGS FROM LIFE

The best way to avoid disappointment is to not expect anything from anyone or anything. Whenever I say this to people the first things they say to me is, that sounds depressing. I understand where they are coming from, it does sound miserable, but the reason I try to not expect things from life is so I'm not miserable. No one just deserves things from life. You cant sit at home wondering why you never get a job offer when you aren't busting your butt handing out CVs to every single place you can possibly think of. You cant be annoyed at the world for not handing you the love of your life if you aren't opening yourself up to love. If you stop just expecting things from life or from people then it stops you from feeling let down or disappointed and motivates you to start working for the things you want so then when you do get them, it makes you feel all the more proud and fulfilled knowing that you truly earned it! 


"Set your expectation low enough that they are achievable, but not so high that you fail to reach them, if you don't expect too much you will never be disappointed"
- Anonymous 



2. ALWAYS FOLLOW YOUR HEART AND DREAMS

I have believed this and tried to live by this ever since I was young. Considering my career of choice is acting, this hasn't always been easy to do. There's been times when i question wether I'm making the right choice or I'm being incredible stupid and then I heard this quote from a Jim Carey speech, "You can fail at what you don't want, so you might as well take a chance on doing what you love", and since hearing this I haven't once doubted my decision to be an actress because wether I'm successful or not, at least I know I will always be happy. Life can go wrong no matter what you do and nothing can ever give you security for life but there are things that can make you happy for a lifetime so why not take a chance on them?


"Live the life you've imagined"
- Henry David Thoreau



3. EVERYONE DOESN'T HAVE IT TOGETHER 

And even the people that look like they do still don't feel like they do. No one ever feels like they have their life together apart from a few days a year where you feel like you are in control of everything but that feeling never lasts long. Life's hard and you can't control everything that happens or that you want to happen so the easiest thing is too accept that and accept that life is hard so just enjoy every moment you can! 


"You're only human. You don't have to have it together every minute of every day"
- Anne Hathaway 



4. YOU DON'T HAVE TO DO IT ON YOUR OWN

You can lean on your parents and friends for everything from money to advice. I am the worst for pretending everything is fine and not sharing my problems but it makes life much easier when you finally do share things with people in your your life. When you put pressure on yourself to handle everything yourself it makes the problems and worries you have feel even worse. Maybe if you just talk things through then you might just realise that they aren't as bad as they seem.


"Alone we can do so little. Together we can do so much."
- Helen Keller



5. IT'S OK TO BE THE SINGLE ONE. 

Sometimes it seems so hard when it feels like all your friends are coupled up and doing exciting things with their partners and they have forgotten all about you. Everyone has been in this situation. Although it seems like they are sorting their life out moving in together, getting married, and already starting their family and you are still stuck in your parents house wondering how you will ever be able to move out just keep in mind that you only have yourself to please. You can go out and do everything you have ever dreamt of, travel wherever you want and accomplish the things you want to accomplish without having to worry about someone else's feelings and without feeling guilty for doing the things you want to do. It is far better to be single and strong than to be with the wrong person just because you think you should.


"Too many girls rush into relationships because of the fear of being single,then start making compromises and losing their identity. Don't do that."
- Katy perry



6. YOU HAVE MORE PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE THAN YOU REALISE

I am terrible at believing this but its true. Don't sit there thinking why doesn't anyone ever message me or ask me to go out or go and travel, reach out to them yourself. Look through your contacts and see how many people you haven't spoke to or seen in a while and ask them to go and have a catch up or ask if they are up for doing something you have been dying to go out and do. Don't sit at home wishing you could meet a new friend to go and do crazy things with or hoping that you will magically meet a boy you think is perfect for you. Be thankful for the people that are already in your life and more thankful for the people who have stuck around. You will never get what you want in life if you don't appreciate what you already have.


"You will never get what you want until you are thankful for what you have."
- Michael P. Watson



7. DON'T BELIEVE ANYONES LIFE ON SOCIAL MEDIA

I know that everyone knows this but I cant stress how much this is true and yet i still don't believe this half the time. I cant tell you the amount of times I go on social media and I see people travelling the world, moving away, getting their dream jobs or even just pictures of my friends on an outing that I couldn't go to or wasn't invited and I come off my phone in a terrible mood. Why do we do this to ourselves. The majority of the pictures and status's or tweets aren't what they seem anyway and yet we can be in a perfectly good mood and ruin it for ourselves. Take a break from social media! 


"The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else's highlight reel"
- Steve Furtick



8. PRESSURE AND EXPECTATION RUINS RELATIONSHIPS

This is the lesson I've most recently learnt. Ever wondered why when you get in a relationship with a good friend its not quite the same fun relationship you had before? or why people can be together over 20 years with no problem and then once they get married it all goes wrong. Its because you start expecting more and more things from the other person and put pressure on them to do everything you are wanting to do without telling them. You need to expect less from them and put less pressure on them to be your happiness and once you do the small things they do that you have stopped noticing suddenly start to make you happy again.


"What screws us up most in life is the picture in our head of how life is supposed to be"
- Socrates



9. DONT TAKE PEOPLE FOR GRANTED

Leading on from the last lesson, always appreciate everyone in your life (unless they are poison then I advise that you forget those blood suckers!). All the people in your life should make you a better person in some kind of way wether its by making you relaxed, fun, motivated or even just happier theres lots of ways they can change your life for the better. Figure out why they do and then appreciate them for it, don't just expect them to stay in your life. Would you stay in your friends life or stay with your boyfriend if they didn't appreciate you but just expected you to stay?


"Too many people realise at the end of their life that they have taken for granted those who really love them"
- Lesley M.M. Blume



And now my 3 favourite...

10. LIVE

Don't let your life go by without appreciating every moment. Its a great idea to plan, to have goals, and to do things you may not want to do because it is a way of getting the life you want but at the same time don't spend your whole life like that because you will be on your death bed knowing that you didn't actually have the experiences that count. It might be a depressing thought thinking that tomorrow could be your last day but once you accept that death is inevitable at any point in life then it gives you the freedom to really live.


"Don’t ignore death, but don’t be afraid of it either.  Be afraid of a life you never lived because you were too afraid to take action. Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside you while you’re still alive"
- Live Learn Evolve



11. LAUGH

It is the best therapy and the best feeling and what's even better is that its free. Even at some of the worst times in your life if you just find the tiniest thing to laugh at for the briefest of moments then you will already start to feel better. If you can find time for just 1 thing in your day then I advice that it be laughter (even if it means watching cat videos on youtube then so be it). There's nothing better than a happy and laughing life. 


"You don't stop laughing because you grow older, you grow older because you stop laughing"
- Maurice Chevalier 



12. LOVE 

In my opinion this is the simplest and most complex thing in life and no one ever really fully understands it. Everything we do in life is based on love and hate. Its a feeling that we have every day, wether its as simple as your favourite food or music or maybe its the love for the most important people in your life, yet this is the hardest feeling to understand. It's the most complex, it causes the happiest of moments in your life and at the same time the most hurt you will ever feel but if you go through life without truly loving people and different things therefore opening yourself up to those people and things then you will never truly know the meaning of life. 


"Love will hurt. If it doesn't hurt you are not doing it right. To truly love someone you must open yourself up to the pain that would be losing them"
- Teresa Mummert



We all learn different lessons throughout life and some mean more to us than others but these are the ones that have been most important to me lately. I go through times where I forget these lessons and have to relearn them but I try not to be hard on myself for letting my positivity slip and just try and make sure to have a more positive mindset from that day forward. I hope these have helped you in some way and if you have any to tell me then I would love to hear them from you. There will be a few posts to follow on acceptance, positivity and the magic book that is 'The Secret'.

Also if you liked this then check out the Live Learn Evolve blog here telling you '10 painfully obvious truths everyone forgets to soon' and if you want some more inspiration then watch Jim Carey's full speech here, I promise it will be worth it. 


4 comments:

  1. Lovely post like the little quotes at the end of each one too
    Carrieanne x
    http://www.beautiesunlocked.com

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    1. Thank you so much for reading, I do love my quotes! xx

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  2. Hi,
    Just commenting to let you know I really love your blog and I have nominated you to do the Liebster Award here: http://megaanalicec.blogspot.co.uk/2015/08/liebster-award.html
    I hope you have fun answering the questions and please tell me when your post is up because I would love to read it :)
    Megan x

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    1. Hey,
      Thank you so much! Really appreciate it, will get onto it asap and let you know when its done.
      Thanks again!
      Jazmin x

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